Secular (Non-Religious) Vows:

Note: Ceremony may be modified to remove ring exchange ceremony.

Dearly Beloved, we are gathered together here in the face of this company and with love in our hearts, to join this man and this woman in a committed legal marriage, which is commended to be honorable among all men; and therefore – is not by any – to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly – but reverently, discretely, advisedly, and solemnly. Into this loving estate these two persons present now come to be joined together. If any person can show just cause why they may not be joined together – let them speak now or forever hold their peace.

Marriage is the union of husband and wife in heart, body, and mind. It is intended for their mutual joy – and for the help and comfort given one another in prosperity and in adversity. But more importantly – it is a means through which a stable and loving environment may be attained.

Through marriage [Groom] ______________________ and
[Bride] _________________________ make a commitment together to face their disappointments – embrace their dreams – realize their hopes – and accept each others failures.
[Groom] _________________________ and [Bride]
__________________________ will promise one another to aspire to these ideals throughout their lives together – through mutual understanding – openness – and sensitivity to each other.

We are here today because marriage is a wonderful union that is proven to improve happiness, success, and longevity in couples, and so we want to witness the joining of [Groom] __________________ and [Bride] ______________________. This occasion marks the celebration of love and commitment with which this man and this woman begin their life together. And now – through me – we join you together in one of the most honorable bonds.

(Insert Optional motivational/spiritual reading and/or Unity candle Ceremony)

This is the beginning and a continuation of their growth as individuals. With mutual care, respect, responsibility and knowledge comes the affirmation of each one's own life happiness, growth, and freedom. With respect for individual boundaries comes the freedom to love unconditionally. Within the emotional safety of a loving relationship – the knowledge self-offered one another becomes the fertile soil for continued growth. With care and responsibility toward self and one another comes the potential for full happy lives.

By gathering together all the wishes of happiness and our fondest hopes for [Groom] ____________________________________________________and [Bride] ____________________________________ from all present here, we assure them our hearts are in tune with theirs. These moments are so meaningful to all of us, for what greater thing is there for two human beings than to feel that they are joined together – to strengthen each other in all labor – minister to each other in all sorrow – and to share with each other in all gladness.

This relationship stands for love, honesty, and trust, but most of all for friendship. Before they knew love, they were friends, and it was from this seed of friendship that is their destiny. Do not think that you can direct the course of love – for love, if it finds you worthy, shall direct you.

Marriage is an act of faith and personal commitment as well as a moral, and physical union between two people. Marriage has been described as the best and most important relationship that can exist between them. It is the construction of their love and trust into one single growing energy spirit. It is a moral commitment that requires and deserves daily attention. Marriage should be a lifelong commitment to the ideal of loving kindness – backed with the will to make it last.

Do you [Groom] ___________________ take [Bride] _____________________ to be your wife? Will you love her, comfort her, honor and keep her, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, for better or for worse, in sadness and in joy, to cherish and continually bestow upon her your hearts deepest devotion, forsaking all others, keeping yourself only unto her for as long as you both shall live?

Do you [Bride] ___________________ take [Groom] _____________________ to be your husband? Will you love him, comfort him, honor and keep him, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, for better or for worse, in sadness and in joy, to cherish and continually bestow upon him your hearts deepest devotion, forsaking all others, keeping yourself only unto him for as long as you both shall live?

What token of love do you offer (Groom responds "Our wedding rings")

May your rings symbolize this affectionate unity. These two lives are now joined in one unbroken circle. Wherever they go – may the always return to one another. May these two find in each other the love for which all men and women yearn. May they grow in understanding and in compassion. May the home they establish together be such a place that many will find there a friend. May these rings symbolize the touch of the spirit of love in their hearts.

[Groom] ____________________________________ as you place the ring on [Brides] ____________________________________ finger, please repeat after me:
[Bride] ______________________________, from this day forward you are my wife – and I give you this ring as a pledge of my love – and as the symbol of our unity – and with this ring, I thee wed.

[Bride] ____________________________________ as you place the ring on [Groom's] ____________________________________ finger, please repeat after me:
[Groom] ______________________________, from this day forward you are my husband – and I give you this ring as a pledge of my love – and as the symbol of our unity – and with this ring, I thee wed.

[Groom] ________________________________ and
[Bride] __________________________________ may you always share with each other the gifts of love – be one in heart and in mind – may you always create a home together that puts in your hearts – love, generosity and kindness.

In as much as [Groom] ________________________________________ and
[Bride] ____________________________________ have consented together in marriage before the company, and have pledged their love – and declared their unity by giving and receiving a ring – they are now joined.

You have pronounced yourselves husband and wife, but remember to Always be each others best friend.

And so with the presence of Love and the power vested in me by the Parish of St. Tammany, and the State of Louisiana, I now pronounce you Husband and Wife. May your days be good and long upon the earth.

[Groom], _____________________ You may now kiss you Bride.